Do Not Mother Your Husband

 {From the Archives of Connie's Letters, October 2002. "Men of God"}



 Dear Wives,

I have a bit more time to write so wanted to share some
thoughts. . . Speaking of men of God. . . don't mother your husband.  Let him be responsible for his own sins. . . Don't be like Moses and stand between God's wrath and the sinners. Get out of the way, and let God deal with your husband. 

 And how does this  work?  Quit being the Holy Spirit to your husband. . Learn in quietness and submission. . Learn in silence.

Your husband is not your god. Jesus Christ had better be your God.. Your husband won't take ya to heaven. . And - NEWS FLASH - we as Christian wives aren't here to be comfortable and go to Women's Bible Studies all day..We are here to bring our families to Jesus Christ. .We are to be helpers to our husbands. .by following them. If they don't treat us as weaker vessels, then their prayers won't be answered. 

Oh yeah, they had better treat us right. .Trouble is that God can't
chastise them, as he would have to blow us to kingdom come to get to our men. . We mother them and stand in the way.

No man of God needs to be mothered. . He has to learn to stand on his own two feet; and if he sins, he gets to pay for it. . But when your husband sins, you don't need to get after him about it. .You can just enjoy him and love him and pray for him. . . Let him do his business with God.

Often wives worry so much over their husband's sins that all they do all day is sit and worry. . This is crazy and causes you wives to sin. . You aren't doing your housework, or looking after the children. You are in sin, and worry, and fear. 

 You must pray like crazy for your man. . and get the victory, and treat your husband like he is a preacher of the Gospel. . .You WON'T make it no-how on your own .  . keeping your husband in the DOG HOUSE.  . And chewin' on him all the time like an old dog. . No, be free in Christ. . God brought you to the Lord without anyone chewin' on you. . Let that poor man go and quit buggin' him and watching him like he was a baby.  

He is a man made in God's image. . He is the glory of God, and you are the glory of your husband. . You are to help this man to the Lord. . Not by your mouth and your vain instructions. . But by your silence . . by your good works and example.

You must never lie to your husband. . . Don't sow lies into your marriage.  No .  . not at any cost. . Don't lie about how much money you have in your purse hoping to save some back for a rainy day.  No. . tell the truth to your husband even if it brings you harm. . I mean don't tell him about past loves or whatever . . no. . That's under the blood.  But I mean about household matters of business. . Some men have lied so much they don't know how to tell the truth. Well you must never lie. . let them see this example of Godliness. 

 Don't let them be babies by taking their place as breadwinners. . Don't lighten their loads by taking over for them in matters of manhood. . Be a woman to them. . Stay in your place as keeper at home. 

There used to be an old saying, "If you want your man to be more of a man. . then you be more of a woman." And that is so true. . . Don't cross over your line of womanhood to instruct your sissy husband. . Let him sink or swim.   Stand on the scriptures that say that his prayers won't be answered, if he doesn't treat you as the weaker vessel.


Love Connie

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Angels Unaware - Take Care of Your Husband

 {From the Archives of Connie's Letters, July 2012.}

Mary L. used to tell me about her mother... She would tell me how they were homesteaders in South Dakota.... She said that her Mother loved her Dad so much.. And that she took excellent care of him...

Her Mother always fixed wonderful meals for him even when she and her husband were old.  Mary said one time, after she was married, she had come home to visit her folks.. And the next morning she wanted her mother to sit and watch a show on tv with her..  But her mother said she wanted to be like Jesus and minister  to her husband.."Jesus has come to serve"..Mary said she never forgot that.. 

Mary always had a servant's heart.. Mary told me that her mother told this story in the old days about a stranger that came to their house ..  Her Mother served this man a meal and then he went on his way.  But this stranger told her mother that her dad would live a long life because her Mother took such good care of him..

Mary's dad lived well past 90 yrs old.. Mary and her mom thought this man was an angel unaware..

Love Connie

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