Some Wisdom for Reverencing Husbands

{From the Archives of Connie's Letters, August 2011.}


And ya know its a dang wonder any of this writing i have done ever got off
the ground..And when i hear a Sister say she loved what i said about this or
that,,I am thinkin "I dont even remember saying that "..i think alot of
times the Lord speaks to me about something and it some how says something
different to you..Miss Charlotte came to visit a few days ago in the
evening,,We were talkin about being housewives and how some of our relatives
cudnt figure it out..They think just cause you are home you arent doing
anything,,Char homeschools her grandchild..Anyway i told her that i was
always busy at home when i homeschooled..And i said "Ya know when Jim was
alive and had his days off that was so busy.....i told her when Jim went
back to work after a couple days off i wud need a day to just figure out
what the Hell i was doin..i needed a whole day just to rest ..Miss Charlotte
laughed her head off..But ya know when you are married you are your husbands
helper..But that doesnt mean he is your God..You reverence and honor your
husband and go along with him,,,You fit in to his plans,,,But by no means is
he your God..You are still to have a personal relationship to Christ..Even
if your husband is saved and walking with God,,Still you as wife and mother
have to have a life in Christ on your own,,And you dont have to discuss with
your husband every little thing the Lord tells you..You need to let your
husband grow in Christ at his own speed..Dont boss your husband around with
what God has told you..Wait back and let God tell your husband what is
what..i think this is where satan is trippin some of you Sisters up..You
think everything your husband does is right in Gods eyes,,And it isnt,,You
need to spend enuf time with God so that He can tell you where your husband
is at spiritually and where you are at..Wives shudnt just sit back and say
"Well i am doing what my husband said to do so i am safe" No you aint
safe,,Yes you do what he says and fit into his plans,,But God Himself cud
stop you..If your husband tells you to do something that you know is
not Gods will then trust God to stop you,,Your husband may be in a bad mood
because of something that happened at work.He comes home and says out of his
anger "I hate what your cooked for supper"!! Well he is speaking out of
where he is at..He hasnt just come out of his prayer chamber.But you as his
wife need to see these things in the spirit realm and respond to them in
wisdom..Like say to him,,"Well i can fix something different for
supper"..But dont make a mountain out of a mole hill..Its only one meal he
insulted. You know if you are a good cook or not..But spend the time in
prayer to understand the ways of your household..before you go before your
husband your King,,,love connie

An Old Time Kitchen

{From the Archives of Connie's Letters, May 2005.}

And ya know if ya make jam or jelly and it dont turn out or set up then pack it
 in your cupboard and use it for pancake syrup..Or you can use it in bread for a
 cup of the liquid..Or in muffins or whatever..The old time mothers didnt use
 recipes.they used what they had in the cupboard and nothing was wasted..I use a
 pressure canner to can beans. Yet the old time mothers didnt use .anything but
 the waterbath method to can their beans..For my tomatoes i use what we have
 always called the "open kettle method"..I just have 2 pots on the stove..One is
 the tomatoes boiling and the other is the jars and canning lids and rings
boiling..And then you work quickly to fill the jars while everything is boiling
 ..Then you cap the jars and you are done..I think Kelly does this in a more
 simple way..Kelly when ya have time wud you tell the ladies how ya do it? With
 my way you have to work real fast and make sure the children arent around at the
 time..or they cud  get burned from splashing hot water..I am thankful to say i have never burned
 any of my children during canning time..But my kitchen is so small that there is
 no room in there for more than one person anyway.I have the Little Rose today
 ..later this morning..Jim used to help his mother can when he was a boy. She
 canned outside and it was Jims job to dig 2 fire pits and put bricks around
 them for the big washtubs to rest on..One wash tub held the jars and the other
 one held the food to be canned..Mom Hultquist made all sorts of things in her
 washtubs..She made ketchup , pickles and canned many vegetables for the
 winter..She made rootbeer for the neighbor children in her big wash tubs...She
 canned her corn on the cob on the cobs in big jars..She made many different
 kinds of pickles.All the old timers made a barrel of saurkraut for the winter to
 keep in the root cellar..But you can make saurkraut in a few canning qt jars.Its
 easy, it just has to ferment.  I am good at fermenting.  No snickering from the balcony..thanks you so very much..In the fall i make blender ketchup,Jim loves it and even puts it on his
 fried potatoes..it is so delicious !! i make it in the fall after all the other
 good tomatoes have been canned...My sister in law Kris used to let me come and
 glean the rest of her tomatoes she didnt want in her garden after she had canned
 ..And in the fall i wud take the less than perfect tomatoes and clean them up
 and make tomatoe sauce and ketchup..Kris had the big farm garden and often
 planted extra for me, plus i had my own town garden..The old time Mothers wud
 make picklelilly in the fall...Just before a frost they wud pick the last of the
 vegetables in their gardens..They may have a handful of beans and some small
green tomatoes and some onions and dill..A few small peppers ..and a few
cucumbers.Some lil heads of cauliflowers, cabbage or brocolli.that grew back
 after the big heads were  cut..But whatever it was they picked it as they wudnt waste anything..They wud  take these odds and ends into their kitchens and put it all thru their steel
 grinders mixed with vinegar, sugar, fresh herbs and spices....And they made a
 pickle relish and canned it for their winter family tables..Most old time
 families had pickles on the table for most every meal and snack..Also homemade
 breads and berry jams and home churned butter..And this was not so long
 ago..And we can do all of this now if we need to or if we just put our minds to
 it..And Mom Hultquist had to have all her canning done by Saturday as she needed
 the wash tubs for the Saturday nite baths.Then Monday she had to have them for
 wash day.She had 13 children and never lost one thru any kind of neglect..That
 says alot for her..Never had a miscarriage.and raised her children right thru
 the Depression era..What a woman..Love connieh